If you are frustrated that your child does not like to share, there is new evidence that you can fix that problem. Environment and age of your child plays a factor in how you approach sharing.

Sharing Ice Cream

The emotional state of you child also plays a factor when sharing is involved. This article will help guide you in making your kid a better sharer and a better friend using research to get the result that you are looking for.

Key Takeaways:

  • Teachers have always wanted their kids to share in the classroom when possible. There are a few ways to encourage that behavior when the opportunity arises.

  • Kids do respond to some gentle suggestions about what is acceptable behavior. Sharing is a time honored trait that appeals to people of all ages.

  • Practice the skill and get to know one another while sharing too. That can bring a classroom closer together with a little help along the way.

"Kids respond to clearly stated, gentle suggestions about what is acceptable when it comes to sharing."

Read more: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/three_ways_to_inspire_kids_to_share

This article discusses some of the anecdotes of one parent about children being entitled and these stories range from humorous to thought-provoking. It tells of how kids will complain about any chores they need to do, even to a parent who has been working and cleaning all day. In the end, the speaker argues that what gives the greatest incentive to children most may not be money, such as an allowance, but social goals, like getting finished with the work by lunchtime.

Key Takeaways:

  • All parents have had moments where they see or hear of their children acting entitled and it makes them question what they are doing wrong.
  • Behavioral economics is a fascinating framework that looks at why people sometimes make irrational decisions, which can help us understand how to raise kinder and less-entitled kids.

  • The Scrooge-like tendency is a universal phenomenon when we inconvenience others but place the blame on outside forces rather take personal responsibility for our actions.

"Behavioral research shows that humans can become acclimated to almost anything if they’re exposed to it frequently."

Read more: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/on-parenting/how-to-raise-kinder-less-entitled-kids-according-to-science/2016/10/03/1a74fa3a-7525-11e6-b786-19d0cb1ed06c_story.html

According to a research study, the tone an adult uses effects a child as much as the words that are spoken. When a child is exposed to emotional verbal expression in a situation of play, an angry tone can hard wire them to be more fearful later with that same play. Parents should be aware the what how they address children in circumstances can change that child's life long experience with those situations. Kids are not programmed with temperament as much as we think. A parent's behavior molds the child from very early on.

Father and Son

Key Takeaways:

  • Current research shows that a persons temperament may not be as hard wired but may have more of an environmental factor.

  • How a parent reacts and talks to their child can have long lasting future impact on the child's temperament.

  • Being aware of what is said will allow a parent to adjust their conversation and how they treat their child.

"The results of a recent experimental study published in the March 2016 issue of Developmental Psychology found that not only what we say but how we say it may affect the development of emotional traits of a child starting at a very young age."

Read more: https://childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/how-what-you-say-and-how-you-say-it-may-affect-your-childs-temperament/#.WfHNcGhSzIU

Recently in Polk County Florida, there's a Sherrif causing quite a sturr on social media, about social media. Posted on the Facebook page of the county sheriff's office was a frantic post calling for all young people to withdraw from using particular apps. Online bullying was at the meat of this fear mongering post. From stating to parents that they're kids are most likely talking to adults disguised as children to citing uncommon reports of porn being viewed by young children there were a number of misinformation. Instead of wanting to educate children about the potential risks of using social apps, this post aims at banning kids from using apps altogether.

Key Takeaways:

  • Apps that are better known by parents aren't necessarily the most dangerous to children, you have to seek out the apps that children use the most for danger.
  • Nothing on the internet is truly private or anonymous everything can be copied and shared with others and your true identity can be eventually figured out.
  • Complete prohibition of using these apps is unnecessary, when used correctly they often have usefulness in connecting schoolmates & families.

"To be clear, more bullying happens at school than on any particular online platform"

Read more: https://cyberbullying.org/empower-educate-dont-just-create-panic

Shyness is an often misunderstood emotion and researchers believe this emotion evolved in response to new and unusual external stimuli in one's environment.

Shy Boy

Children, in particular, are highly susceptible to shyness. The strategies for helping a child that struggles with shyness all begin with building a foundation of acceptance and self-esteem in the child.

Key Takeaways:

  • Often we forget the change can cause a shy teenager to become more shy.

  • Shyness, though natural, can always cause children to withdraw from their peers and be treated differently.

  • Make sure as a parent you accept your child for who they are and give them opportunities to build those social skills.

"There is growing evidence of a hereditary or temperamental basis for some variations of dispositional shyness."

Read more: https://childdevelopmentinfo.com/child-psychology/anxiety_disorders_in_children/shy_child/#.WfHSL2hSzIU

It is important to teach kids how to be upstanders. If you want to teach your kids to be active bystanders, then that can be a good thing because it will reduce the audience that a bully desires.

Bullying Keyboard

It can also help to support the victim and prevent trauma from happening too. They can be a positive influence that can greatly diminish the effect of a bully. It will also help to encourage other students to be positive.

Key Takeaways:

  • Kids need to grow up to be responsible in their own right. Bystanders can intervene correctly and improve any kind of situation as well.

  • Teachers can do their part when it comes to instructing kids to do just that. Upstanding students are an important part of any kind of community as well.

  • These students are a shining example of how people tend to reaction. Get to know the research and what teachers are doing these days as well.

"When bystanders intervene correctly, studies find they can cut bullying more than half the time and within 10 seconds."

Read more: http://micheleborba.com/mobilizing-bystanders-to-stand-up-to-bullies/

Children need to be encouraged to learn social norms like apologies but it's been found that they are already born with natural empathy.

Empathy Compass

Insisting on a specific way for your child to apologize may not be the best way to encourage this natural empathy.

Kids can apologize to each other in ways that don't always come in words.

Helping your child understand feelings helps, and it's important to hear her side of the story.

There are several ways parents can work with a child's natural understanding to encourage proper expression in social settings while dealing with their new emotions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Having the ability to feel empathy and regret is a big part of being human.

  • Forcing children to apologize can take away the actual meaning of an apology.

  • Parents should avoid blaming their children, and find a solution to what has happened.

"Insisting on apologies is neither necessary, nor helpful for children to learn to recognize and utilize these feelings well."

Read more: https://www.positiveparentingconnection.net/teach-child-say-sorry/

Girl Holding Her Head

Children and teenagers are more depressed and anxious todah than they ever have been. More and more children and teenagers fit the criteria for a mental disorder. Children and teenagers are more unhappy then children and teenagers were in the 1950s. Children and teenagers were also happier during tne great depression, World War II and the cold war. As far as mental health goes we are going backwards, for forward. Children are getting more and more unhappy.

Key Takeaways:

  • According to studies, kids today are more depressed than ever with a consistently increasing number of high school and college students being diagnosed with major depression or anxiety disorders.

  • One hypothesis is that generational increases in depression and anxiety are caused by the decrease in opportunities for free play combined with an increase in time allotted for schooling.

  • According to one study, children’s lowest levels of happiness occurred when they were at school, versus their highest when they were interacting or playing with friends.

"Today, by at least some estimates, five to eight times as many high school and college students meet the criteria for diagnosis of major depression and/or anxiety disorder as was true half a century or more ago."

Read more: https://medium.com/the-mission/the-decline-of-play-and-rise-in-childrens-mental-disorders-7cc348ee8529

How happy and successful you are depends on how much self esteem you have.

Self Esteem

It's important that children and teenagers develop a healthy self esteem in order for them to have a happy and successful life.

How we feel about ourselves greatly impacts our lives in every way.

Having a negative self image can cause a lot of problems in live so it's important that we teach kids how to have a positive self image.

Key Takeaways:

  • It’s important to provide children and teens with the basics of developing healthy self-esteem, so that they can lead happy and successful lives now and into adulthood.

  • You can help your child develop healthy self-esteem by not ridiculing or shaming them, and by using positive statements and descriptive praise when speaking to them.

  • Teach your children and teens consciously wise decision making skills by helping them clarify their problem and then brainstorming possible solutions.

"The development of a positive self-concept or healthy self-esteem is extremely important to the happiness and success of children and teenagers."

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