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  • A Sincere Apology

    A Sincere Apology

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    Watch a real life story about a sincere apology!

    Horse Race Now, let’s take a look at a recent example from real- life. It’s the story of a horse racing owner from the United States.

     His name is Steve Coburn.

    Mr. Coburn owns an amazing race horse called California Chrome. California Chrome entered the Triple Crown, the most prestigious horse racing tournament. It consists of three races.

  • Fear - What it is and how it works

    Understanding and Dealing with Fear

    Fear What is it and how it works

    Emotions are often complex and can be hard to understand. Why do we even have them? Do they serve any purpose? The answer is yes! Every emotion helps us to understand and respond to our environment appropriately.

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    The Purpose of Fear

    So what is the purpose of fear? At its most basic level, fear protects you from potentially dangerous threats like high cliffs or wild animals. Whenever your senses (sight, touch, smell, hearing, or taste) detect that something is potentially dangerous, fear provokes a physical reaction in your body. You can start to breathe faster and your heart starts beating quicker, pumping more blood to your muscles and oxygen to your bloodstream. When this happens, your body is preparing itself to react to the perceived threat in what is called the “fight or flight” response. As the name suggests, your body is preparing you to either fight that scary thing off or run far away from it.

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    This can be a good thing! If the threat is truly dangerous, then it’s good to be scared so you don’t get hurt. For example, it is good to be afraid if you wake up and smell smoke in your house. This fear can help you realize that you are in danger, and that it’s best to listen to the “flight” response and get to safety.

    The Mental Side

    Like nearly all emotions, fear has both a good (or healthy) side, and a bad (or unhealthy) side. This is partially because fear is not just a physical response—it also has a mental component to it! At times, your brain can wrongly categorize something as dangerous, making your body react to a threat that doesn’t actually exist or is not truly dangerous. For example, people often physically react to a monster in a scary movie (often with a jump or a scream), even though the creature is not actually in front of them—it’s just the special effects tricking their mind! There are also other emotional or psychological factors that can contribute to your developing a fear.

    Some fears, especially emotional or physiological ones, can start out as good fears but then become bad. For example, a fear of heights can be healthy if it prevents you from climbing something that is dangerously high where you could fall and hurt yourself. However, this can turn into something unhealthy if you become so scared that you cannot do practical things like climb stairs or fly on a plane when necessary.

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    Whenever a fear reaches a point where it prevents you from living a normal life, that’s when you know it has become unhealthy. Fear prevents you from risking your life, but it’s also important to remember that life is full of different kinds of risks, both emotional and physical, and it’s okay to take risks every once in a while to live a normal and fulfilling life.

    So, if you are afraid, one good starting strategy is to ask yourself, “Is this a good fear or a bad one?” If it is a good fear (one that protects your physical or emotional safety), then follow your instincts. Your brain should do this rather quickly. If it is a bad fear, then there are a few ways of handling it. For that, it helps to know other ways that unhealthy fears can develop.

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    Fear of the Unknown

    People are often afraid of things they don’t understand or things that are new to them. Imagine how afraid the first people to ride an airplane must have been. They had never seen anything like a flying machine before, and that fact probably made them scared of it, feeling unsure if the machine could really get them safely into the air and back on the ground again.

    But eventually, once people saw that it was safe, (and perhaps understood the science behind aerodynamics) they felt less fear about flying. So if you are afraid of something, especially something that may be new to you, it might be helpful to do some research on that topic.

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    Ask your teachers or parents if they can help you. If they don’t know the topic very well, they may be able to direct you to a trustworthy resource. Learning more about the issue may help you realize that your fears are not really founded in reality, and there’s no real reason to be afraid after all. On the other hand, more research may help you realize that something is potentially dangerous, and give you informed ways of addressing that potential threat. For example, for a long time we thought cigarettes were just fine for us, even healthy. But then, after more research, we realized that they are actually very bad for us and can even lead to lung cancer.

    Fear from Bad Experience

    Sometimes people fear something because they had a bad experience with it in the past, either when they were younger or during another important time in their life. The psychological part of fear is very complex and personal. A fear can form because of a traumatic accident, like a serious car crash, or because of something that happened to a close family member. In this case, it is important to remember that just because something bad or scary happened once (or even in a movie), that does not mean it will always turn out that way.

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    The Opposite of Fear

    Fear is a strong and instinctive emotion. Another strategy to combat a deep fear (one that is psychological and not triggered by a physical or environmental danger) is to replace it with an equally strong emotion such as love.

    To overcome an ingrained response, you can’t just tell yourself to stop and expect the response to go away. You need to replace the negative emotional response with a positive one, like replacing a bad habit with a good one. So, if you notice that you are consistently afraid of something non-physical, try replacing that emotion with its opposite—dwell on something or someone you strongly love.

    Remembering a deep love (either a person who is very special to you or a passion of yours) can help you overcome that feeling of insecurity and remind you of the good in your life worth cherishing and fighting for.

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    When Fear Grows Too Big

    There are times when your fears, particularly psychological ones, can become too much for you to handle on your own. Sometimes the fear is too complex or too hidden behind other emotions for you to recognize it without some outside help. In this case, it would be wise to talk to your parents and ask if they can take you to see a reliable psychologist or counselor—someone who can listen and help you recognize what the problem actually is.

    Many people suffer from different kinds of anxiety, which is a fear-related emotion. For example, social anxiety starts with a fear of not knowing how to interact in social situations—especially big gatherings like parties. A counselor or psychologist may help you identify if you are experiencing anxiety or other related issues.

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    Fear is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a natural and instinctive emotion that can be both good or bad, physical or psychological, and helpful or unhelpful. Now that you know the basics of what fear is and how it works, you can start identifying the fears in your own life and maybe even help a friend who needs your support.

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  • Helping Syrian Refugees

    Hey kids! Your turn to talk on the Syrian Refugee Crisis

    Background Information – The Civil War in Syria

    Did you know that millions of people have fled Syria since 2011 because of a civil war? A civil war is a war between different groups of people from the same country. For example, the US had a Civil War in 1861-1865. This war was fought between the North and the South over slavery.

  • Let's Talk about Gratitude

    Let's Talk about Gratitude

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    Watch the videos and read about this fascinating story of integrity and gratitude.

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    On April 21, 2008 Grammy-nominated classical violinist Philippe Quint was returning from a concert in Dallas.

    Inadvertently, Mr. Quint left a very expensive violin, a Stradivarius, in the back seat of a cab he had taken at the Manhattan Airport.

    The Stradivarius violin is one of the world most renowned and expensive.

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    The one carried by Mr. Quint that day was valued at about 4 million dollars.

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    A few hours later, Newark police told Mr. Quint that the precious violin had been found.

    The taxi driver, Mr. Mohammed Khalil, had taken it home and once he connected with Mr. Quint, the violin was returned.

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    Can you imagine how grateful Mr. Quint must have been?